Loving Devoted Husband

The subject of communication is one that needs to be reinforced daily because of its importance in a relationship.

Talking with your wife and kids is a vital part to any growth of love in the family. The reason behind sharing in conversation is to get to know the other person. By speaking to them you learn their love language and by knowing what makes them feel loved, you can see clearly when it is needed.

I will admit it does take some effort to do but the benefits of having them come to you for help and comfort makes it all seem effortless.

Conversation also brings along a friendship and a trust that will last through the rough times and the good ones. It’s to know without a doubt that someone will always be there to listen.

Wives are the husband’s inner strength and the better you know her, the stronger you will be as a loving husband. In the same way your kids are the inheritance of that emotional strength because talking with them builds a lasting trust they will carry to their own relationship with others.

Communication can’t be dismissed easily because eventually it will take place. As a loving husband and father make sure you are the one they want to talk with. Otherwise they will find someone who will listen and that can lead to lost love in the family and possibly put you in some broken family statistic. Heaven forbid!

So make a point of talking and sharing with your wife and kids. Be the knight in shinning armor for your wife and the strong tower for the kids. Make the sacrifice now and plant those seeds of communication then watch the effort of your patients flourish into beautiful flowers of loving harvest.

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You love her by being there when she needs to be held.

You love her by spending intimate and quality time with her.

You love her by providing and caring for her.

You love her by listening and talking to her.

You love her by complimenting her with words of affirmation.

You love her with gifts and taking her out on dates.

You love her by saying “I Love You” to her daily.

To love her means you sacrifice your life for her and in return she does the same making you one with each other and that love will overcome all adversities in life.

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So, what are the delicate days? It’s those few days in a young women’s life that makes her uncomfortable and irritable. If you are a married man you know which days I am talking about. That’s right, PMS.

This is the time when a man’s love and care for his wife is really tested. Test such as of patients, how much you love her, being a conversational sound board and many other areas that will test the endurance of a man. It’s a time when each man has to walk a fine line of being a servant to his wife’s needs and like egg shells, your wife’s feeling can easily be crushed if not careful.

It’s also days of sacrifice because the first inclination is to run out of the house and wait for this time to pass. Trust me sometimes that will only add fuel to the fire that is already raging in her emotions. Therefore going out with the boys or retreating to your own comfort zone may not be a good idea.

Now if you need help in gaining a few brownie points, here are a few suggestions. Make sure the car she uses has a full tank of gas. Make a point of cooking the meals and washing the dishes. Give the kids a bath and put them to bed. Do some cleaning around the house and always surprise her with hugs and words of affirmation.

Basically help by doing a lot of the little things she does around the house. Remember that it may seem a little hectic at times and you may make a few mistakes along the way but keep trying. There may be times when you think your sacrifice goes unnoticed.

Believe me, she will notice and the rewards following the end of those days will be surprisingly wonderful and worth every effort and sacrificing moment. Love and romance will take on a new meaning as you show how much you care and love her.

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One of the greatest acts of love is caring for someone who is sick or injured. God’s word clearly identifies that in the story of the Good Samaritan. This gentle, yet powerful act of love binds people together in a miraculous way. Whether it’s husband and wife or parent and child the results are still the same.

A husband showing this caring love is extremely important and vital to his family because it’s his strength and devotion that the family wants from the leader of the family. He becomes the anchor of life that holds them secure and without that anchor the family looks elsewhere and foundations crumble.

Another great act of love is always being there for your wife and children. This simple act of sacrifice, humility, and service is the life blood of a man’s family. It’s a love that deposits endless devotion and reaps the benefit of love.

Think about it, will a few extra hours at work make a difference when you could be on a dinner date with your wife securing a romance that will last forever. What about when your friends call you on a Saturday to play golf and your son is waiting to play baseball. Do you make the decision that will impact your son’s life of trust and promise or do you chase a small ball that only brings a brief moment of fun.

Acts of love are not optional. It’s a choice that has monumental effects on a man’s legacy. Being a loving husband and caring father will be difficult at times but the end result of love is a treasure to behold and a reward of timeless peace.

So invest the time of expressing acts of love to your family and watch how God will richly bless your marriage and ring laughter in your children’s hearts. God Bless!

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Having and getting an accountability partner is something I have been hearing a lot of lately. So, what is an accountability partner?

Basically, it’s a person you give permission to ask you the hard question regarding your actions and holding you accountable to your word. It’s also a person you tell what your goals are and having that person available to talk with when you need encouragement.

This person can be a parent, business associate, respectable mentor, trusted coach and yes, a loving and devoted spouse.

The more I thought about an accountability partner and possibly getting one. That’s when I realized, I already have the best accountability partner, my wife.

She is my friend. She knows my strengths and weaknesses. She knows my potential and what motivates me to succeed. We share the same interest of being self employed and entrepreneurs. Most of all she cares and loves me for who I am, a true partner in every sense and a blessing from God.

Now I will agree that some people do need another person of the same gender to fully understand and relate to certain issues but that’s what friends are for.

Having your spouse as an accountability partner can be a wonderful thing and it takes a great deal of understanding to accomplish the richness of it. Thereby, having good communication skills is vital to that relationship and keeping the end goal in mind which is accountability.

Be careful that the accountability is not used to belittle one another but to enrich the love and intimacy in each other and helping the other person to be self-discipline, confidence, patience, motivated and overall a better person. The key secret is be accountable for your actions, trust me your wife will love you more for it.

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One of the saddest things I witnessed one day was hearing a man belittle his wife with negative words while she was away. It bothered me so much that I immediately told him that he should not say things like that.

When I hear of men doing that it tells me that their marriage is lacking in love, something maybe interfering like certain needs not being met or it may be an argument they just had. Regardless of what the cause, it’s no reason to belittle them in front of others, especially if it’s your wife.

If a man is verbally saying negative comments about their spouse, I can only imagine the negative thoughts they are entertaining or how bad they think of themselves.

Wives are a lovely gift from God to help her husband and finding a wife is a good thing. The loving words we speak to them or about them in public is like taking a soft cloth and polishing her to shine even brighter. On the other hand, words that belittle her is like taking sandpaper which dulls and takes away from her beauty.

Words of affirmation is like a breath of fresh air to a women, it energizes her, she feels loved, rests in security and her self-esteem flourishes like a new spring flower. Her beauty only increases and magnifies to the level of importance for her husbands needs.

Men, remember the love that drew you to your wife, she is still the wonderful person you said “I do” to. She still needs your caring and loving words as well your wonderful thoughts of her when she is not around.

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What is pampering? Pampering is simply to treat with extreme care. Women like to be pampered and if you want to be a loving husband, pampering your wife is showing that you do love and care for her deeply.

After a few years of marriage most men take this for granted but believe me when I tell you that she has not forgotten. This is something that has to be put in practice on a routine basis and not just on Valentines Day.

So here are a few suggestions to help you put things into practice.

Let us start in the kitchen. After your wife has finished preparing a wonderful meal for the family and everyone is full. Go up to her and tell her to take it easy for the evening and inform her that you will take care of cleaning the kitchen and putting away the leftovers. Then go beyond what you told her and clean the kitchen thoroughly and put things in there places so she will have a sparkling kitchen to be proud of the next day

If she works outside the home make a point of massaging her shoulders and feet when she comes home. Also take time to listen to her is she had a stressful day. Be the soundboard and let her vent and clear her mind as you just listen then give her a hug and kiss letting her know that she is loved at home.

Take her out on a dinner date to her favorite restaurant and take time to get dressed up and put on the cologne she enjoys. Afterwards take her out shopping or for a walk somewhere holding her hand.

If you are uncomfortable with some of these then make a point of looking for things to help her. Things like making sure her car is always full of gas, always making sure the trash is taken out, put the kids to bed, wash dishes or start by taking over the simple task of grocery shopping.

The key to remember here is that your wife is a special lady in your life and it’s up to you to pamper her so she feels special. So as you read this post start making plans to surprise her with a little pampering.

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Your wedding party represent your closest friends and family and they obviously need to be there on your fantastic day to show support to you and show that they will always be there for you and your spouse when you need them. Since they are taking part in your wedding day, they will need to feel comfortable and included during the ceremony and reception. That is where your wedding favor come in. The wedding favors show your friends and family how much you appreciate them and their participation and support in your new life as a married couple. The wedding favors are most effective when you really think about what your guests will like and what might be useful to them.

Your guests will really appreciate the gifts you give to them if you show them that you took the time to really think of what would be best. If you do this then your wedding favors will immediately create a bond between you and your guests because it will show your personality off while still taking into consideration what would be the best way to appreciate each and every single one of your guests. It will also bring all of your guests together into a level of comfort because they all see that you gave everyone a great gift that shows their importance to you and your spouse.

wedding favor do a lot more than just welcome your guests. In fact, they can become a major part of your decorations if you use them in the correct way. Wedding favors come in so many different categories, styles, and colors that you always have hundreds of options. The best way to benefit yourself while also making those hundreds of options less overwhelming is to fit your wedding favors in with your theme. This way, you can search for a much narrower range of ideas and you will find the one that is absolutely perfect. You can really tie your whole theme together in this way because it will bring the theme directly to the tables and to your guests so that everyone can feel the atmosphere. Wedding favors can add so much color to your tables and really make everyone be happy to be there celebrating with you and showing their support.

The greatest thing about wedding favors is that they are physical representations of your memories and the atmosphere of love that there was at your reception. All of your guests take home this physical keepsake of your party. This is a symbolic gesture that marks them as witnesses to your love and the celebration of that love on your special day during the ceremony and reception. All of your guests can display these little gifts in their own home and tell everyone they have over about how beautiful your celebration was. So, wedding favors can really help you to stand out amongst the crowd and to make your party way more unique and different than anything any of your guests have ever attended and then they will certainly remember it forever and talk about it for ages.

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One of the hardest things for most men to say is “I’m sorry”, “I was wrong” or asking for forgiveness. A number of men would rather face mortal danger than to say those simple little words.

Apologizing and asking to be forgiven is as powerful as the words I love you. Each one brings closeness and caring love to your wife. While on the opposite end of the scale, unforgiveness, resentment and bitterness can be very destructive to a marriage.

The myth that surrounds most men today about saying they are sorry is that they will appear weak. On the contrary when a man apologizes to his wife he shows tremendous strength and she gives him the respect which follows those words of forgiveness. Loving and being devoted then become by products leading to an intimate relationship of oneness.

This is one of the most difficult changes a man will have to learn when getting married because he is no longer watching out for himself but he is now taking care of a precious flower. Without the gentle care and love to nourish the flower it will quickly start to wilt, petals will fall, fragrance fades and eventually it dries up and dies.

As a caring father it also applies to your children. Let them see an example of emotional strength by apologizing to them as well. Like you wife they are also in the flower bed as buds waiting to blossom.

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One of the secrets to loving your wife and for her to love you is to know her limits, the boundaries by knowing what she likes and the things she does not.

The reason most marriages have trouble in the first year is because of changes and adjustments to new habits. Both you and your wife are learning what each one enjoys and find pleasing or the things that really annoys you.

Here are a few examples, my wife likes it when I go and do the grocery shopping for her and sometimes we go together. She likes shoulder and back massages but she does not like to be tickled. She enjoys conversation of most topics but she does not like to be interrupted during mid conversation of a point she is trying to make.

Now in order to find out what she does like and things that don’t appeal to her requires a little conversation on your part. When you see that your wife likes something, ask her about it, believe me this will also be a time of intimacy and she will love you for even asking. Also do the same thing when she is displeased with something because you do not want her to be mad at you. Just politely ask her the reason for her dislike and let her know you want to understand, trust me she will love you again because you are showing genuine concern and care for her.

Here is a suggestion to help, whether you are just married or have been for a long time. Start keeping a journal and write down everything that your wife enjoys, what makes her laugh or cry, happy or sad, things she hates and especially what makes her love you. This will become your reference book for the times you may forget the simple things because as for most of us men we tend to forget. So begin a journal and express your love by studying her likes and dislikes.

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