Loving Words to Cancel Out Disagreements
Jun 24th, 2007 by Paul
Disagreement is something all couples will face at some point in their marriage. Some are small differences and some are big arguments that lead to hurt feelings, resentment, unforgiveness and sadly, divorce.
After a while it is no longer about the differences but who will win the argument. This is something very serious in a marriage and need to be handled with love.
I have learned that it’s usually my lack of information or knowledge of the subject matter that leads to our disagreement. That’s right I admit that as a man I am not always right, sorry guys. The bottom line is how I handle such a difficult situation. My words can be very hurtful to my wifes’ feelings or they can be caring and understanding.
I am reminded of a scripture in Proverbs 15:1
“A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
This is so true, raising my voice just adds fuel to the fire but when I speak with a gentle voice of understanding we always resolve a difference and come to an agreement. This is something easy to do but it takes time and practice to master.
The key is talking about the disagreement. Speaking with a soft controlled voice of love for the other person feelings and thinking about how I would like to be treated. Speaking with love and gentleness will always bring peace and intimacy.