Love and Listen to Your Wife
Jul 16th, 2007 by Paul
At times I fail to listen to everything my wife is telling me. She will explain things in complete detail and as a man I want the final answer. I always fall into this trap of not listening to the entire answer. I have come to realize that she is better at explaining things than I am. Even my questions lack the detail for a proper answer.
I have to first think of the question I want to ask before asking. If I want a quick answer I have to first formulate and ask a detail question worthy of a quick response. Some of our long debated questions and solutions can be easily resolved by us both understanding the question in the first place and that is where I have to change by just listening.
In listening to the whole explanation I notice that other answers to related questions are also answered which is a reward in itself. Praise God! As a man it is always divide and conquer but in a marriage and being a loving husband it’s about being patient and listening to your wife. Remember, God gave us a wife to help where we are the weakest and as a man it’s up to me to recognize the strengths in my wife. Oneness comes by sharing our strengths and weakness.
Thank you for your insights into how my husband’s mind works.
Now, how can I determine when he wants a long explanation and when he wants a short response. Any suggestions?
Lynn,
A very good question and yes I have a suggestion.
First ask him if this is a good time to talk because most men want just the facts and all the other details bore him. Now that does not mean he is not wanting to listen, he may just have something else on his mind.
Second, as a husband he should take time to say “this is not a good time” or some comment that he was listening. This is something that he needs to develop for better communication with his wife.
Also, take time to discuss your feelings to help him understand that you want some response, sometimes this is something that a husband takes for granted but it’s no excuse for not listening properly.
Again a very good question and one all men needs to consider to be a loving husband.
Paul