Comments for Loving Devoted Husband

Comment on Save Your Relationship - The Importance Of Romantic Dating by Micah

Micah — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 18:43:57 +0000

So very true, Paul.

Complacency and routine can lead to cold feelings in a relationship. A loving relationship has to have that romantic ’spark’ to keep things warm. I’m blessed to have learned that.

It might not seem very manly, but being romantic is the ultimate show of affection. Taking into account what his lady likes, a man can plan on things to reinforce his love for her. If she’s into art, an evening trip to a museum followed by dinner would be perfect.

Romance is also a chance for a man to flex some creative muscle. Some flowers and a card for the lady is nice, but imagine her face if she was read some poetry that her man wrote just for her. There are so many things out there for a man to give to his woman, but if a man can create something her that is unique and sincere, that is pure romance. Poetry, art, or a song from the heart works absolute wonders.

One Friday in the future, I plan on taking my lady to a nice quiet spot in the hills for a picnic. We’ll both have that particular Friday off, effectively making it a three day weekend. Just us, some lunch, a blanket, and God’s beautiful landscape. I’ve got some planning to do, but it’ll come to pass. I love her that much.

You’re right Paul; it’s the best investment a sincere man can make. The benefits are immeasurably wonderful!

Comment on Love Your Wife Because The Children Are Watching by Paul

Paul — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 17:00:45 +0000

Mike,
Thank you for a very insightful comment.

Comment on Love Your Wife Because The Children Are Watching by Mike

Mike — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 04:30:17 +0000

Great blog!!! A great book for married men is “How to Love You Wife” by Dr. John Buri. It changed my life!!

Here’s the short description of the book: Some people have suggested that a successful marriage requires tremendous insight to understand and super-human effort to achieve. Others contend that happy marriages are the purview of a lucky few. In this ground-breaking book, How To Love Your Wife, it is revealed how thriving marriages can actually be achieved through sensible effort by reasonable people. But here’s the catch. Since the majority of marriages in this country consist of unions in which wives are more heavily invested in marital success than are their husbands, much of this sensible effort by reasonable people needs to be consistently initiated and maintained by men. In fact, men often hold the keys to bringing about the type of loving marriage they had hoped for when they first said “I do.” In How To Love Your Wife, these keys are made clear, understandable, and accessible.

John Buri’s website: http://personal.stthomas.edu/jrburi/

The book on amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Love-Your-Wife-John-Buri/dp/1598864858/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1216440988&sr=8-1

Comment on Magic Of Making Up Review - How To Stop Your Man Leaving You by Paul

Paul — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 15:11:04 +0000

Micah,
I think you are doing great by asking her questions about your conduct. The whole key to any relationship is talking and sharing, especially in the truth. Honesty is the strength that will build a strong relationship and will help to weather any storms that may come. God bless you for taking the right path.

Comment on Magic Of Making Up Review - How To Stop Your Man Leaving You by Micah

Micah — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 12:09:45 +0000

I completely agree, especially with #4.

Most men would probably think I’m nuts for doing this, but from time to time I actually ask my girlfriend how I’m doing as her boyfriend and what can I do better. It’s like one of those suggestion cards at restaurants that ask you to rate their service. If the service is lacking in an area, the restaurant won’t know unless you tell them.

I asked a co-worker of mine what would she think if her boyfriend came to her and asked if there was anything he could do to be a better man for her. She immediately stated that he would do no such thing, but she wishes he would.

A progress report every now and again only helps to maintain a relationship.

Great post, Paul.

Comment on Marriage: Help with… How to… Understanding… by Paul

Paul — Sun, 11 May 2008 02:10:22 +0000

Anita,
Let me first agree with you that divorce is not the answer because God hates divorce, His plan for marriage is perfect and that is the key and the answer to your situation. Get back in church and submit to God's design for marriage and also seek a Christian marriage counselor.
I will also add that once you are back in fellowship with God, take your request to the Father. I say that because we can not change a person but God can. So get back in a right relationship with God and take your situation to His throne room and pray, pray and pray. He loves His children.
God bless you and keep your focus on Jesus.

Comment on Marriage: Help with… How to… Understanding… by Anita & John Herbst

Anita & John Herbst — Tue, 06 May 2008 21:44:44 +0000

Hi,
Our marriage goes up and then it comes down. I know that my husband does not want to really break up when we have dissagreements. He is a hot head and a non believer but has the potential to want God. He has struggled with depression and bipolar for the most part of his life, well since he was a boy. He has been hurt alot from family and other relationship that he doesn’t understand geniune love. We are at this point coming out (or trying to) of addictions. I just recently stopped him from seeing porn and going to adult caberets. He doesn’t like it much but I stand my ground in God. He has been bugging me about a threesome which I consider for him to cheat on me with permission. I battled voices in my head that were in a sexual nature. I called friends and that’s really all I can do because my friends and myself are always on the run. I want to go back and root myself in a church. I sing and always in my secret closet sing to God. I love my husband and I know he loves me but the addictions and the shallow mind games he goes through can be overbearing for me. We have gone to counseling but the women was not Christian, which made it difficult. I use to counsel couples in my church for many years until an actual degree was involve and at that time I couldn’t afford to go back to school much less pay for it. I had been a widow for eight years prior to my second husband (JOHN). I don’t know what to do at this point, I want him and myself to be happy but he is always negative and live for the moment. It has been five years now that we have been married and he still finds it difficult to mingle with my children (teens). And always blames them for everything that goes wrong in the home but he attacks me with it. We have done all the we can to keep this marriage but it’s difficult because I am always on the watch with his addictions and if he will cheat on me. Althought he swears up and down that he would never. In my gut I feel really wierd, I really do feel it’s the enemy but at the same time the addictions attract the female demons too. What do you think and suggest. Divorce is out of the question for sure. I couldn’t bear with a semi-death. Please-please help me-help US

Comment on Support Your Wife’s Career Goals by Paul

Paul — Tue, 26 Feb 2008 02:35:23 +0000

Support is taking time to share in her interest and in this case her job or a small business she wants to start. Women enjoy sharing about their interest, especially with their husbands. She likes to know that you approve and to know that you care about her. suppoting her career choices expresses that love to her.

Comment on Support Your Wife’s Career Goals by music

music — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 18:41:41 +0000

What do you mean ?

Comment on Sorry and Forgiveness is Love by the listener

the listener — Sun, 20 Jan 2008 17:24:15 +0000

once again, you hit the nail on the head. i writing a bit on relationships(family, spouse, etc)i know you an expert at this, so i stopped by to see what knowledge you have to deposit & i must say this is excellent. It gives the reader a knock out punch. i hope you don't mind me highlighting this topic and obviously sending my readers to your blog.
i must say your blog is inspiring. I pray there would be many people out there who would come out with inspiring blogs to educate & help people worldwide.
Till i visit you again,
I remain,
The listener